The desire to complain

Complain… such a used concept in modern society.

“Express dissatisfaction or annoyance about a state of affairs or an event”

familiar? I guess so…


It seems we find it pretty annoying to be near someone who complains the whole time , yet if  a close look is taken – we all complain! Some of us more, some less but lets be frank boys & girls – Shouldn’t we admit to ourselves, for just a tiny moment that we do.. Complain.  A lot?

Well lemme rest a sure –  you’re not alone.

You can blame it on society, capitalism, modern life, nutrition, his parents, her mum, stress, lack of sleep and as far as I concern you can blame it on the weather man… But  it all still comes down to the fact that you. complain. A LOT.

Should we relate to it as a “modern-society-syndrome”?

perhaps… But first lets go down to understanding what complaining does to us. Generally and specifically. Ready?

Doing my daily web search  I bumped into stuff that provided a serious “food for thought”:

“We complain about brands an astonishing 879 million times a year on Twitter, Facebook, and other social media networks. A full 10 percent of us find something to be angry about publicly every single day”  (article on web)

and that’s just on social networks ladies & gents(!) imagine just how much the number increases once we add up our friends, parents, boyfriend-girlfriend, husband-wife, children, neighbour etc.

Shocked? no? keep going then, it gets worse … but it always does before it gets better -so heads up 🙂

Reading some more provided additional info in regards what it does to our brains. Dudes… “A half hour of complaining every day physically damages a person’s brain” , stress hormone being released every time we complain and researches mentioned we tend to complain on same matter to 8-16 people that aside listening can’t do much for us in that specific matter nor solve any of the problems for us.

Last but not least is the negativity that comes with complaining and its effect on our brains…

How does a negative thought affect our brains?

our brain is a collection of Synapses, surrounded by empty space that is called the synapses cleft.  thoughts in our brains create chemical reaction from one synapse over to another, which builds a bridge of sorts between the two synapses where the electrical charge crosses, and carry with it all the information involved in this one thought. Each time this electrical charge is “triggered” by the thought, the synapses involved move closer together so there is less distance for the charge to travel, what eventually leads to the brain “approving” those two synapses to spark together-that leads to thought coming more easily, repetitively and quickly and by complaining a lot this very negative thought created in our brain will come more frequently and there you go, a non positive pattern creating a non positive persona.

So what DO WE DO then?

a. practicing our brains with an oposite thought to that very negative thought. Hence positive thinking

b. Sport activity we love.

c. Adjusting a suitable nutrition for our needs.

d. Practice yoga

e. practice smiling 🙂

f. Staying tuned for more of our wellbeing HisideHerside articles – for us… for you


Complaining is a habit, It’s an addiction, But yet it’s only in our minds… and as it came to our awareness and brain pattern… It can just as easily disappear with the right attitude and work.


“Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses”


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